Abandon Nest

So a while ago I was given some good advice pertaining to women, and I’d like to share it with you now.  For my male readers, keep this advice and use it.  For the females, let me know what you think and whether I’m on base or not.

Now guys, when you start getting into a relationship with a female, you need to have two very close friends that you can rely on.  You see, girls like many different things, but there seem to be two things that they desire above all else.  Those things are flowers and jewelry.  Now, as a male, I can only ponder the reasons that females are attracted so intensely to these two items.  I speculate that it is due to their beauty and rarity, but that is only a
guess.

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So maybe after considering the questions in my previous post, you have decided to pursue a long distance relationship and you are asking yourself, “How can I make this work?” To begin, I believe communication is key.

• Try to talk to each other at least once a day. While it may be tempting to just shoot emails back and forth, talking on the phone, even for only 5 minutes, promotes and fosters a deeper connection. Your voice can provide something special that a computer screen would never be able to.
• Try to establish a certain time to call each day. With the wonder of cell phones, calling to or from your way to work or school can be a convenient time for you. Another idea is to call when your unwinding from your day, maybe getting ready for bed. However, BEWARE of falling asleep at this time. Your loved one would surely not appreciate hearing your snoring on the other end of the line when he/she is in the middle of sharing something with you.
• Don’t let the conversation be one-sided. Unless, of course, your significant other only wants to talk about him/herself — but then why would you want a relationship with a person like that anyway? At the very least, talk about your plans for the day or how your day went. If you tend to be absentminded, jot down notes throughout the day you can refer to later.

Sometimes work or school or other personal reasons call for you to temporarily relocate or *gasp* permanently move. What, then, happens to the relationships you have formed with coworkers, friends, and most importantly, your significant other? Do you call it quits with your boyfriend/girlfriend, or try to make it work long distance? While this decision requires personal reflection, I’d like to offer some frank questions to ask yourself:

• Do you see yourself having a future with this other person? – Do you even want to make the effort if the relationship doesn’t have any lasting qualities?
• Is your significant other is, as a friend of mine aptly labeled it, just ‘a fine piece of booty’ you can call over anytime for physical fulfillment? – Why bother with him/her when you can find that anywhere without too much difficulty? (If you’re thinking, “Well the sex is REALLY good, I should keep him/her around” don’t fool yourself – if there’s no emotional attachment, even the sex will fizzle out eventually.)
• Does your significant other want to continue the relationship? – Even if you have decided to pursue it, make sure your boyfriend/girlfriend feels the same way.
• Can you even handle a long distance relationship? – Not having your loved one nearby is difficult – I speak from experience. Is your connection strong enough to survive a prolonged period of distance?